First of all, I want to tell you that you are doing an awesome job raising your little one/s! You are an awesome wife! You do a wonderful job managing your home, you keep everyone on track. You make sure everyone is fed, you make time for everyone even when you feel like you have nothing left to give. You give that meaningful hug and kiss! Even putting a Band-Aid on that boo boo is important and life-changing to your little love!
You are an AMAZING WOMAN, Wife and Mom! You are a Jane of all trades!
I know that you may feel overwhelmed with work, school and things at home…I know what you’re thinking:
“If I hear the word, ‘Mom’ one more time” or
“I just want to go to the bathroom ALL by MYSELF, no hands poking through, no knocking on the door for me to get a cup of water or juice” or
“If my husband looks at me this evening with that look in his eyes, seriously? I have been smothered by little humans all day and now you want your turn?” or
“I just can’t do it ALL!”
I know what you’re thinking, why? Because, I am right there with you, Sister!
Overwhelming times are like a perfect storm for us Moms, who think that no one really understands. We go into survival mode and become a ticking time bomb about to go off. We stay focused on the everyday tasks with our families that we forget to take care of ourselves, physically or spiritually!
I get it, it isn’t easy to pull away from the realities of how hard being a Mommy is! BUT, I am here to tell you that it’s going to be OK!
I want you to know that it’s ok to pull away, to take a drive down the street to gather your thoughts. It’s ok to cry because you are stressed. It’s ok to go to your bedroom and take a breather/time out. It’s ok! Your husband and your kids will understand!
It’s OK to be overwhelmed! You are NOT a bad wife or Mom for feeling that way!
What’s not ok?
Doing things on your own and going on an empty Momma tank! Not finding anyone to confide your feelings in. Talk to your husband, he will listen. Seek out a girlfriend that you can also talk to. Find that friend who will just sit and listen or bring your favorite snack or desert to take your mind off of things!
When I was overwhelmed and going through depression, I found it easier to shut feelings away. I also shut the need for help away! I didn’t understand what I was going through until it was too late. I thought that I would be judged for struggling the way I was. I was afraid to get help! I regret this so much!
I urge you, Mommas, take a break from time to time! Let that laundry sit for a while, let those dishes stay in the sink. The floors can be vacuumed and mopped later or tomorrow. Curl up and read a book while the kids are in school or get a cup of coffee with a girl-friend. Go shopping. Go walking, go get a Mani/Pedi. Get a massage, or go nap with the baby! There is nothing wrong with taking the time for yourself, for all you know, you definitely need it.
When was the last time you took time for yourself?
So wherever you are, right now, I want to tell you again, you are awesome and doing a great job! Let’s walk through this Mommy-thing and life together!
from one Momma to another MommaJ